First of all, if you are not having feelings for this guy then you should definitely break it off with him. I can tell you nothing is more hurtful than having someone lead you on. In the long run he will appreciate it more.

But to answer your question, I am going to give you a bit of advice from expert Bob Narindra. He says sometimes, even though you would hate to admit it, some friends should never become couples. I agree. Sometimes there just isn't a connection between the two individuals, and if this is the case then a connection should never be forced. Do not ever make the mistake of trying to force yourself to like someone because you will find yourself miserable. In your case, do not bother sticking with someone whom you don't have the desire to be romantically involved with. It will only cause frustration and drama between the two of you, two factors that will destroy any type of relationship.

Narindra suggests individuals should not take the decisions of breaking up lightly. He recommends when making your decisions to make sure you are not just having a bad relationship day. This is essential to deciding whether you really don't want to be with this guy. Again I agree. Before doing anything, make sure this is really what you want to do. Are you really just interested in being this guy's friend? If so, breaking up lies ahead.

The break up should be honest and to the point. Do not beat around the bush with this guy. Remember he has a right to know the truth about your feelings toward him. However, at the same time consider his feelings. Do not come off as rude or harsh. Instead, break the news to him in a respectable manner. Breaking up over the phone may seem easy, but do not do it. You have come to know this guy; the least you could do is find the courage to tell him in person. Trust me it won't be that hard.

Make sure you are kind and sincere about wanting to remain friends. I am quite sure this guy will understand. Once you have told him there is nothing else that you can do besides continue to be a good friend. Hopefully everything will work out in the long run. Good luck!

Look, there is no way you'll ever be friends again unless he is emotionally bankrupt. You probably weren't friends before anyway. He was likely just looking for the right angle to get past your defenses. A lot of women think platonic friendships between men and women are possible because they can point to a gaggle of male friends who don't want to get it on with them. Those guys tried and failed, are probably holding out hope one day they will win you over and sit at home wondering why girls never go for them despite how nice they are. Most savvy guys know to avoid being “friended.” Once a relationship ends, men lose all thunder and must reconcile the emotional friction by either pining for the lost love forever or hating them like a disease. Break up with him and get over it, but don't expect him to.

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